The Self-mediator: Autonomy & Re-selfing

The Self-mediator: Autonomy & Re-selfing

Need term
  • Coordination as an alternative name and label that points at core task of this skill-capability.
  • I think the name “Director” is good but what about something that directs conversation (like a mediator and coach)
  • I think both directing and mediating are good names.
  • conductor
  • ::Mediator:: or “self-mediating”

Inbox

  • Incorporates Gurdjieff’s “Self-Observation”?
  • About managing the conversation we have with ourselves.
  • Psychological distancing as one of the mechanisms that contribute to better directing
  • Self talk is one of the primary tools. I wonder whether I should come up with my own term for this (or is “re-selfing” it?)
  • Also remembering to wake up
  • Spell out the impediments to mastery of each skill. This catalysed when listening to Day 3 of Smartstart program on coordination of Team You.

Introduction

  • This is equivalent to the [[Viegram 🔘/0. Direction]]

Techniques

  • “(What) If I do/n't”

for each “Factor”

Reference

  • [[The “Controlling Self” & “Authoring Self”]]

Awakeness aka Red-pilling

  • Ref [[(Waking up from) Entrancement]]

Disidentification & Self-belief

Practice

  • [[Re-selfing 🔘]]

Affirmation

  • You are the author and authority of your life
Build a relationship with yourself. Work in AND on/with yourself
  • You are both the designer manager author and the worker protagonist
  • You are the bearer of both of cost and the reward in both the present and the future

Note

  • This is in the domain of becoming or what I have also called /doDo/. There is also a /doBe/ in the domain of being (& belonging) which is the other core expression of (meaningful) participation.
  • Work on

Self talk as a core sub-competency of 5. Director

Ref [[The 3 Blue Pills of Bridled Autopilot (3Bp)/3rd person self-talk is better than 1st-person self-talk at changing behaviour]]

Inbox

  • am I the kind of person who ... (in moments of friction and conflict)
  • "I have a weak will-power"
  • hyperbolic discounting (tangibility bias)
  • what self(author) talk is helpful
  • What "inserted" mental models and distinctions are helpful
  • the AOS model is also helpful to diagrammatically illustrate the forces present in a moment of conflict includes dynamics of each such as tangibility bias

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